Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life: One Phase at a Time

Every service member experiences the military-to-civilian transition differently. But one thing is true for most—being unprepared can feel like showing up late to first formation or realizing you lost your sensitive items in the field. The good news is that with the right strategy, you can avoid the chaos. Whether you are two years or two months away from separation, breaking your transition into three clear phases can help you stay focused, reduce stress, and set yourself up for long-term success.

Phase One: Focus on Self

In the military, you are trained to lead and care for others. But when it comes to your transition, you need to start by investing in yourself. Before you take action, gain clarity on who you are and where you want to go.

Start here:

1. Take a Myers-Briggs personality test

2. Complete a goal-setting exercise

3. Talk through your lifetime goals with your spouse or trusted partner

4. Build a master reverse chronological resume

5. Write your 30-second elevator pitch

6. Optimize your LinkedIn profile

7. Find a mentor

These steps may seem basic or even tedious, but they lay the groundwork for everything else. Focusing on yourself first gives you the direction you need for the next phases.

Phase Two: Focus on Your Network

Your network is more than a list of contacts. It is one of your most powerful career tools. Building and nurturing that network will open doors and create momentum.

Steps to take:

1. Research industries and potential career paths

2. Build your network in person and online

3. Attend DAV or RecruitMilitary career fairs—go to as many as you can

4. Schedule 15 to 20 informational interviews

5. Post or comment on LinkedIn 2 to 3 times each week to build your presence

6. Meet with a financial advisor to align your goals with your budget

7. Define and refine your personal brand on LinkedIn

Quality matters more than quantity. Focus on meaningful conversations, follow up with purpose, and ensure your online presence reflects who you are and what you bring to the table.

Phase Three: Focus on Employers

Now that you have done the inner work and built a solid network, it is time to shift into action. Phase Three is where you begin executing your job search.

Tasks to complete:

1. Customize your resume for each opportunity

2. Research civilian logistics such as housing, insurance, taxes, and cost of living

3. Ask for referrals and rely on your network to help you get in the door

4. Narrow your job search and apply strategically

5. Rehearse with mock interviews

6. Start applying for jobs

Your preparation will pay off here. Keep tracking your progress and adjusting your strategy as needed.

Don’t Forget to Review Your Progress

In the military, after-action reviews (AARs) are a critical part of learning and improving. Apply the same concept to your transition.

Every few weeks, pause and ask:

• Are you making progress toward your goals?

• What is working?

• What needs to change?

If you feel stuck, seek support from a mentor or trusted advisor. Fresh eyes and honest feedback can help you get back on track.

This is your mission now. Break it into phases. Take intentional steps. Review your progress. Stay focused and keep moving forward.

Written by Lucas Connolly
DOD Program Manager at RecruitMilitary and retired U.S. Army veteran

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